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Forest Cottage Centre Email Newsletter:
December 2004
What Are You Tolerating?
In this issue:
A Note From the Coach
Tolerations: Dealing with the little things.
It's a busy time of year…and in these last few
days before Christmas things can feel particularly
overwhelming. If you are living with someone with
special needs, ordinary life can feel like too much
just keeping up to (or ahead of) them, let alone with
additional Christmas pressures. You wish that life
could be better but feel like nothing can change because
the special need is there to stay.
But most of us have a lot of little things hanging
over us that drain us such as much, if not more, than
the big things. Take a few minutes to consider what
little things are draining you: the unfolded clothes
in that pile in the corner, the leaky faucet, the
doctor’s appointment you have been meaning to
book… Life coaches call these "tolerations"
– those ongoing annoyances that eat at a person
but seem minor so we keep ignoring them. Experts tell
us that most people have about 100 at any given time!
My challenge for you this December and January is
to consider what little things could be handled so
that you would have more energy for the big things.
What could you change that would make next year better?
Where to Start: List as many of these jobs (tolerations)
as you can think of. Keep a notepad or post-it handy
and add things to your list over the coming week.
Include everything you look at and think "I should…"
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Once you have your list, pick ONE
thing you can take care of TODAY. Then do it. For
the remaining items:
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Decide which things you need to
finish before the end of this year so that you don’t
have to think about them again in 2005.
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Decide which items need to be done
next year and assign timelines to each item. Break
them up. Assign items to different days or months.
Then take care of that ONE item on the day it comes
up.
My challenge for you is to have your best year yet
in 2005. Here are some ways I can support you (scroll
down for more details on each):
Wishing you a happy Christmas and a toleration-reduced
NewYear!
– Tanya Helton, M.Sc., Parent Coach
READER POLL: IEP Meetings
Last issue readers were asked to report when they
had IEP (School Planning) meetings for their children.
The consistent time frame reported was for mid to
late October.
This month's question: What behaviour of your child
bothers you the most? E-mail your response to tanya@forestcottagecentre.com
with "behaviour" in the subject line.
Coaching Specials
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end of the newsletter and e-mail me (and mention
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of you, your name will be entered into a draw for
your choice of: 2,002 Ways to Show Your Kids You
Love Them (Book) OR Winning the Homework Battle
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WEEKLY E-MAIL COACHING: Contact
me by January 7, 2005 and receive weekly e-mail
coaching for $5 a week. (That’s only $20/month,
$240 a year + GST). A very affordable solution for
parents who want someone to connect with regularly
and receive specialized strategies tailored to your
child/ren’s unique behaviours.
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WEEKLY TELEPHONE COACHING: $250/month
+ GST. $$ Save $50+ now! January 8th the coaching
bundle (4 hrs/month) will increase from $250/month
to $300/month. Sign up by Jan. 7 and stay locked
in at the reduced rate for the duration of your
contract. If you have thought about telephone coaching,
now is the time to start! (Current bookings are
available on Tuesdays during office hours. Waiting
list for evening sessions available).
*Specials not available to current clients.
TeleClass
Many of you have been waiting for our next TeleClass.
SNAP (Special Needs Adoptive Parents) and Forest
Cottage Centre present:
Mommy Overload: Coping Mechanisms to
Beat Caregiver Stress- a teleclass and online forum
discussion.
The Mommy Overload Discussion will give moms a chance
to talk over strategies, as well as ask questions.
The Teleclass and online discussion will be moderated
by Tanya Helton and will include class notes.
Teleclass: Monday, January 24, 7:30 pm PST, $8 CDN/person
(includes toll-free call)
Discussion: Friday, January 29 to February 29, free!
Register by January 6 by calling SNAP toll free at
1-800-663-7627 or by emailing info@snap.bc.ca. Payments
accepted by Visa, MasterCard, or cheque. Participants
will receive teleclass and online discussion instructions
upon registration.
Mommy Overload Discussion made possible by the generous
support of the BC Adoption and Permanency Trust Fund.
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About Forest Cottage
Centre
Forest Cottage Centre provides
attachment-based support for parents of severe behaviour
or special needs children, attachment Disorder resources
and training and workshops for professionals working
with challenging children. Services include individual
and group sessions, workshops and retreats.
© 2003 Forest Cottage
Centre. All rights reserved. You are free to use material
from this newsletter in whole or in part, as long
as you include complete attribution and copyright
information, including live web site link and email
link. Please also notify Forest Cottage where and
when the material will appear.
Comments or questions? Contact
Tanya Helton, M.Sc., Life Coach at Forest Cottage
Centre Inc.
Phone Toll-Free 1-877-261-6361
Tanya@ForestCottageCentre.com
www.ForestCottageCentre.com
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